DIRECT AND INDIRECT FORMS OF BULLYING
Direct: verbal bullying with derogatory
comments and nasty names and physical bullying with hitting, kicking, shoving,
and spitting (This is more common among boys)
Indirect: social isolation (intentionally excluding
someone from a group or activity), spreading lies, nasty rumors and
cyber-bullying (This is more common
Most common form of
bullying is by nonphysical means (by words).
causes pain and stress to victims
2. Bullying is never justified
or excusable as “kids being kids,” “just teasing” or any other rationalization
3. The victim is never responsible for being the
target of a bully
CHARACTERISTICS OF STUDENTS WHO BULLY OTHERS
a positive attitude toward violence and the use of violent means
strong needs to dominate and subdue other students and to get their own way
impulsive and easily angered
little empathy toward students who are bullied
defiant and aggressive toward adults, including teachers and parents
WHY DO SOME STUDENTS BULLY?
who bully have strong needs for power and (negative) dominance; they seem to
enjoy being “in control” and subduing other
who bully find satisfaction in causing injury and suffering to other
students. This is at least partly due to
the environment at home, which may have caused hostility within the student
who bully are often rewarded in some way for their behavior. This could be material or psychological rewards,
such as forcing the student how is bullied to give them money or steal for
them, or enjoying the attention, status, and prestige they are granted from
other students because of their behavior
*SET AN EXAMPLE:
NEVER JOIN IN ANY LAUGHTER, TEASING OR GOSSIP ASSOCIATED WITH BULLYING!
EFFECTS OF BULLYING ON THE VICTIM
Bullies make everyone afraid even those who aren’t targets.
The person who is bullied often feels worthless and powerless. Witnesses may feel ashamed that they
lack the courage to stop the bully.
They may not feel safe and they may begin to fear that nothing can protect
them from harm
- VIOLENCE: Violence can quickly spread out of
control. Remember violence is never
- LOSS OF
FREEDOM: Fear of a bully may cause young people to avoid
certain places or activities.
FROM SCHOOL: Young people may become so frightened of a bully
that they stop going to school altogether.
WHAT CAN YOU DO IF YOU ARE BULLIED?
“Getting even” with a bully can cause more
problems than it solves. Victims of
bullies are not
helpless. Here are a few
things for you to try if you find yourself being bullied:
- Tell a
friend! Ask your friend
to help you. It is harder to pick
on someone who has someone else there to give support.
Away! It’s really hard
to bully someone who will not stand there and listen.
Out! Bullies seem to
target kids who respond to their taunts-girls who cry easily, or boys who
fly off the handle. TRY
HARD not to show
emotion. It’s almost impossible to
bully someone who does not seem to care.
It Down! Keep track of
what happens. Get dates, times,
places, and witnesses. Write down
exactly what the bully says. This
gives you an accurate account of what has happened.
- Get An
Adult Involved! Your
parents, your teachers, your principals, guidance counselors are ready to
help anyone who is being bullied, but they can’t help if they don’t know. Show them the things you have written
down, tell them about the friends you have had with you when the bully
tried to bully. The sooner you tell
an adult the sooner the bullying will stop.
Tattling is when a student
tells an adult what another student did simply to get him or her into
Telling is when a student tells an adult what another student did
because that student’s actions were unsafe or hurt another person.