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Peer Pressure


Things you can do to help your child:

  • Help your child have a positive self-concept (let them know it is ok to be different)
  • Study hard/do your homework (even if your friends aren’t)
  • Try making new friends (maybe with someone who is different from you or has different interests)
  • Stay with hobbies/likes/interests (even if your friends don’t have the same interest)
  • Be reassuring about physical and emotional changes
  • This is a tough time for middle school students, some students change faster than others.  Reassure your child and help them to feel good about who they are.
  • Practice role-playing
    • This includes acting out peer pressure situations so that your child has a chance to practice different responses.  Some responses include:
      • Humor
      • Reasoning (“if you cared about me you wouldn’t pressure me”)
      • Consequences (“I might get grounded if I do _____”)

Some examples of negative peer pressure:

  • Cheating (people asking you to see your homework or class work or tests)
  • Skipping School or Classes (this can hurt your grade and get you in trouble)
  • Using alcohol, tobacco or other drugs (these only lead to trouble, with the school, the law, and your parents)
  • Bringing things to school that are not allowed (see previous points or weapons) (this will get you in trouble with not only school but the law as well)

Things you can do to refuse peer pressure:

  • SAY NO! (tell the person that you don’t want to)
  • Leave   (walk away especially if you feel uncomfortable)
  • Give a reason (I have to get to class, I need to get home, or I don’t want to get caught)
  • Remind yourself and them of the consequences of getting caught do something

If the person that is peer pressuring you to do something is your friend, they won’t make you do anything that you don’t want to do!